Last week a Realtor was down on her luck. In addition, this
was affecting her performance. Every conversation was full of negative and
depressing comments. All she seemed to find was negative in everything. She
was looking and listening for reasons to be upset and she found them.
The truth is that correcting a depressed person is like throwing
feathers against the wind. All the feathers can do is blowback at you. Not
much was changing, and I was beginning to wonder if I picked the right career.
I could not get her out of her depression.
Then I had a simple idea. Out of nowhere, this simple idea
came to me. I said to her, “Why don’t you e-mail me one thing you accomplished
today and every day for one week.”
You would not believe the difference! Just seeing all the
emails at the end of the week changed her entire perspective about life. The
way to overcome a self-destructive attitude is to realize that YOU are a GREAT
person. You are capable of accomplishment. You make a difference.
When she was shown all the things she had accomplished she
started looking at the successes. She was no longer being self-destructive. When
you can focus on your successes people will see you as a more positive person,
and you will see yourself as a more positive person.
There are three tips for overcoming a self-destructive attitude.
Focus on
your successes – Write down your successes for one week. They do not need
to be big wins. If you write I got out of bed today that is strong enough. At
the end of your week review them. (In the past)
Focus on
your perfect future – Write down your perfect future. If you had to write
down your perfect future what would it look like? If it were exactly the way
you want it, what would your future be? Write this down. Even if you don’t
know, make a decision about what your life would be like. You may not know, but if you
had to make this decision, what would your life look like? The reason is that
successful people are focused on the future. Most can even remember what
happened yesterday. They are so focused on the future and what they want that
this focus can pull them out of the current situation. (In the future)
Focus on
your gratitude – Write down things that you are thankful for. Think about
something that is frustrating for you. Next, focus on why you are grateful in this
situation. (In the present)
Shifting your focus to the positive things in your life, saturate
your thoughts.
Think about this!!!!
Is it a bad day or do you see it as a bad day?
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